“A husband and wife may disagree on many things but they must absolutely agree on this: to never, ever give up.” – Unknown
I’ve had the privilege of working at several weddings. One of my favorite parts of the wedding is when they have a generation dance. Once the dance is over, the couple who has been together the longest shares their tips for a great marriage. I’ll be sharing the advice I’ve heard over the years.
A loving marriage requires commitment, communication, and affection
Keep in mind what initially drew you to each other and refrain from rolling your eyes or acting disrespectfully toward one another. Even when you disagree, show compassion and respect.
Love must develop through time with perseverance, patience, and hard work.
You are equally responsible for everything, even if it’s merely chores or maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Working together helps couples stay together.
Maintain a healthy physical relationship.
Always be grateful for each other.
Keep in touch with your loved ones and friends because they have shaped who you are. There is nothing more important than keeping outside relationships as well as working on your new marriage.
Work Together
Work together when it comes to handling your finances. You risk starting the “blame game” if you don’t. The primary cause of divorce is financial reasons.
Even if it’s just someone doing the dishes without being asked, cherish the little acts of love just as much as the big ones.
Learn to compromise; cooperation is the key. Make sure your decisions don’t cause you to become enemies.
Keep going on dates throughout your marriage; it will keep your love alive.
When your spouse accomplishes something unexpected, compliment them and thank them. Encourage them to smile if they are having a bad day.
Don’t mention anything from the past; focus only on the present. Be grateful for the time you have together.
Never and Always are unrealistic terms, don’t use them, especially in a negative way!
It gets easier the longer you stay together. After ten years, it is a breeze. Commit to not giving up and continue to work together.
Think positively about your marriage, and it will stay positive.
These are my favorite and the most practical tips for a great marriage that I have heard. God created marriage to be a rewarding, exciting, and gratifying experience. There will undoubtedly be “troubled waters,” but who better to navigate them with than the person you chose to marry?
It takes more than simply wishful thinking to have a happy marriage. It requires a lot of commitment. Don’t look at your marriage as just hard work, have fun with it. Truly enjoy each other and work together to be successful. Great Marriages take work; they don’t just happen. I am grateful to be married to someone willing to work with me so that we will succeed in our marriage.
Written by Ellen Crivellone of Smokey Mountain Sounds and the Smoky Mountain Wedding Association– We would love to DJ for your celebration! 1-865-712-1854
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